Remaining Friends After Divorce

Filed Under (Divorce and Legal Separation) on 03-13-2012

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Although some may find it hard to believe, friendly divorce in Colorado is not an oxymoron.  Some couples trust each other and communicate reasonably well and still want to split up. If this is your case, you can do it yourself with mediation.

What happens in divorce mediation?

In mediation, you and your soon-to-be ex negotiate with each other in the presence of the mediator—who is neutral. After you gather all the papers that show your incomes, assets and debts, you bring them to the mediation meeting, display them openly and work together to write your separation agreement, and your parenting plan if you have children.

What is the mediator’s job?

The mediator helps focus the conversation; explain the process; show you different ways of doing things so you can consider a variety of options; and helps each of you hear what the other person is saying. But YOU still make the decisions. Mediation is a good way to stay in charge of making your own decisions, while getting help in putting together a separation agreement.

What if it’s not so friendly?

You would likely use divorce attorneys if you’re not getting along well, but you still might end up in mediation. Many courts now order mediation in nearly every case where parenting or change of parenting is an issue, or for modification of child support or maintenance.

For more information about divorce mediation, check out the “Friendly Divorce Guidebook for Colorado” by M. Arden Hauer, MA, JD